Silvia Soriano Reading Response "What Happened to Goodbye" October 10 2012
After parents divorce, kids arent the same any more. Believe it or not a parents divorce has more affect on children than you think.They grow up all their life's with both parents, and then all of a sudden things change, everything is confusing and different. In the book "What happened to Goodbye" a girl named Mclean parents divorced, she was a teenager at the time.She blamed her mother, because her mother left her father for the Baseball star she loved. She didn't want anything to do with her mother anymore. Things were different, seeing her mom with another guy was strange for her. When her dad started working around the country she decided to go with her dad. Mclean started moving around the country with her dad every time he got a new job. She Started at every new school with either a new name, new personality, new look, anything for her to look different than the last year.She hated saying good bye ,so she always left without saying good bye.When Mclean and her dad move to a new city, she finally tries to be herself.She tries to bond with her mom. She finally accepts the idea of her mom and Dad having their own separates lives.She even finds love, which she had been avoiding since her parents got divorce.The book is all about Mclean learning to accept the truth, what is really going on.Her whole journey is learning to accept what is really going on.Will she accept everything that comes with her new present? Will she like it?
In the book "What happened to Good bye", I always asked myself one question, why did Mclean always try to be someone new every where she moved to? I know she left her town because of what happened with her parents, but that doesn't necessary mean she has to be another person. Her parents had changed with their relationship, not her. She wasn't going to be leaving them, or she wasn't going to be going to another family cause of this. Everything was the same, she still has a mother that loves her. She still has a father that loves her too. Nothing changed, maybe just that their not together, but thats all. On the other hand maybe she did feel that when her parents love died a part off her did too.She grew up knowing that she will always have her parents together loving her, then..bam. That changed, all the memories she had with her parents were just memories. Nothing will probably be the same anymore.Maybe she felt that since her parents changed their lives, she could too. Maybe she also wanted to kill/ or get rid of her old self.
While reading the book "What Happened to Goodbye" I also asked myself another question,is why would she blame her mom for her parents divorced? Sure her mother was the one that made them get the divorce bu that doesn't mean its completely her fault. Her mother was lonely, all her father did was work. She was falling out of love with him. It was a better idea to break it off with someone your no longer happy with, then to lie and be unhappy with that person. Her mother wasn't the only one to blame. Also her dad, he spent so much time with work, he forgot about his wife and the love. If her dad really loved her and didn't want the divorce he would have tried to get her back, or at least fight for her. It was both their faults. She shouldn't choose sides between her parents, because that will just make things worse. It will make her relationship with her mother worse than it already is. She just has to accept the fact that sometimes it isn't anybody's fault things just happen. On the other hand she can be really hurt and just wants to blame somebody for the pain she has.
If I was in Mclean position, I would be hurt no doubt. My parents are starting new lives without each other. Their with other people now. Even though I loved them together, and wish they would be together again. I would have wanted to blame someone for their faller in the relationship , but thats just it. Its no ones fault. Things happen for reasons, sometimes good and sometimes for bad. In the End i just have to accept it, its nothing I can or could control. Those were and are their emotions and lives, not mine.
In conclusion I have learned to care and respect my parents more than I do now. I have to grateful that my parents are still together and hopefully forever will. They love each other. Thats all that matters. It has also aware me that divorce children sometimes all they need is a friend, someone to listen to them. To be their for them, cause that what they really need.
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