Silvia Soriano Reading Response "What Happened to Goodbye" October 10 2012
After parents divorce, kids arent the same any more. Believe it or not a parents divorce has more affect on children than you think.They grow up all their life's with both parents, and then all of a sudden things change, everything is confusing and different. In the book "What happened to Goodbye" a girl named Mclean parents divorced, she was a teenager at the time.She blamed her mother, because her mother left her father for the Baseball star she loved. She didn't want anything to do with her mother anymore. Things were different, seeing her mom with another guy was strange for her. When her dad started working around the country she decided to go with her dad. Mclean started moving around the country with her dad every time he got a new job. She Started at every new school with either a new name, new personality, new look, anything for her to look different than the last year.She hated saying good bye ,so she always left without saying good bye.When Mclean and her dad move to a new city, she finally tries to be herself.She tries to bond with her mom. She finally accepts the idea of her mom and Dad having their own separates lives.She even finds love, which she had been avoiding since her parents got divorce.The book is all about Mclean learning to accept the truth, what is really going on.Her whole journey is learning to accept what is really going on.Will she accept everything that comes with her new present? Will she like it?
In the book "What happened to Good bye", I always asked myself one question, why did Mclean always try to be someone new every where she moved to? I know she left her town because of what happened with her parents, but that doesn't necessary mean she has to be another person. Her parents had changed with their relationship, not her. She wasn't going to be leaving them, or she wasn't going to be going to another family cause of this. Everything was the same, she still has a mother that loves her. She still has a father that loves her too. Nothing changed, maybe just that their not together, but thats all. On the other hand maybe she did feel that when her parents love died a part off her did too.She grew up knowing that she will always have her parents together loving her, then..bam. That changed, all the memories she had with her parents were just memories. Nothing will probably be the same anymore.Maybe she felt that since her parents changed their lives, she could too. Maybe she also wanted to kill/ or get rid of her old self.
While reading the book "What Happened to Goodbye" I also asked myself another question,is why would she blame her mom for her parents divorced? Sure her mother was the one that made them get the divorce bu that doesn't mean its completely her fault. Her mother was lonely, all her father did was work. She was falling out of love with him. It was a better idea to break it off with someone your no longer happy with, then to lie and be unhappy with that person. Her mother wasn't the only one to blame. Also her dad, he spent so much time with work, he forgot about his wife and the love. If her dad really loved her and didn't want the divorce he would have tried to get her back, or at least fight for her. It was both their faults. She shouldn't choose sides between her parents, because that will just make things worse. It will make her relationship with her mother worse than it already is. She just has to accept the fact that sometimes it isn't anybody's fault things just happen. On the other hand she can be really hurt and just wants to blame somebody for the pain she has.
If I was in Mclean position, I would be hurt no doubt. My parents are starting new lives without each other. Their with other people now. Even though I loved them together, and wish they would be together again. I would have wanted to blame someone for their faller in the relationship , but thats just it. Its no ones fault. Things happen for reasons, sometimes good and sometimes for bad. In the End i just have to accept it, its nothing I can or could control. Those were and are their emotions and lives, not mine.
In conclusion I have learned to care and respect my parents more than I do now. I have to grateful that my parents are still together and hopefully forever will. They love each other. Thats all that matters. It has also aware me that divorce children sometimes all they need is a friend, someone to listen to them. To be their for them, cause that what they really need.
Wednesday, October 10, 2012
Wednesday, October 3, 2012
Reading Post #4
Silvia Soriano Reading Response "The Drummer boy Of Shiloh" October 3 2012
Everyone isn't always so confident about on who they are, what they do in their life's, we all go through this in one point of our life's. In the book "The Drummer boy Of Shiloh" bye Ray Bradury deals with insecurity and lack of confidence. Everyone needs somebody to boost their confidence for them to show them that they should be happy because of who they are.The whole book is about Joby ( The main character/ Drummer boy of Shiloh) finding himself and being happy with who he is. Will he find it? Will he be happy with the results.
In the book/ short story "The Drummer boy of Shiloh" Joby felt that a no one. He felt alone. He probably felt that fighting for his life was/is worthless, he doesn't
have anything to fight for a tomorrow (If their was even a tomorrow)He didn't have a family cause he ran away to follow his dream and this is where his dream took place. He left everything behind for this, now that he is here he doesn't want to be their anymore. Joby just probably wanted to give up on everything. That is until he meets the general. The general surprisingly isn't like other generals that don't have a heart and is mean and tough, he has a soft side, a caring listening side and a heart. He gives Joby good advice about how he shouldn't give up, on his job, on the war and in everything in general. The general doesnt act like a general he acts like a Dad towards Joby, he acts like a role model. I guess the general knows that he needs to keep a positive attitude towards Joby because he is the youngest in the army.I also guess he has to keep a positive attitude towards the whole war, he has to make it look like everything is okay for the rest of the soldiers. Joby then realizes that he is worth so much more and gains confident from all of the general advice.
While reading the book /short story I asked myself one question, what would have happened if Joby never took the general advice? I think that if Joby never took the general advice, Joby would have never realized how important it was to be the drummer boy of Shiloh.
He would have fighted for his life for no reason.He would have felt that maybe it didn't matter if he lived or if he didn't.Joby confidence wouldn't have never been as good as it was after he talked to the general.He would have never felt that he belonged their. Maybe he would have died not proud of himself, he would have died maybe even disgusted of who he was.
If I was Joby I would have been confused too and lonely. Being the youngest is always the hardest for anyone.Not knowing if your doing what your supposed to right. Is also hard for anyone who has a low self a-seen is also hard. I would have need someone to tell me I can do it for me to feel better.
In conclusion "The Drummer Boy of Shiloh" is a book/story that I would recommend to anyone who has a low self A-steen. Anybody who isn't really happy or proud of who they are. This book made me look at myself and really truly find myself .
Everyone isn't always so confident about on who they are, what they do in their life's, we all go through this in one point of our life's. In the book "The Drummer boy Of Shiloh" bye Ray Bradury deals with insecurity and lack of confidence. Everyone needs somebody to boost their confidence for them to show them that they should be happy because of who they are.The whole book is about Joby ( The main character/ Drummer boy of Shiloh) finding himself and being happy with who he is. Will he find it? Will he be happy with the results.
In the book/ short story "The Drummer boy of Shiloh" Joby felt that a no one. He felt alone. He probably felt that fighting for his life was/is worthless, he doesn't
have anything to fight for a tomorrow (If their was even a tomorrow)He didn't have a family cause he ran away to follow his dream and this is where his dream took place. He left everything behind for this, now that he is here he doesn't want to be their anymore. Joby just probably wanted to give up on everything. That is until he meets the general. The general surprisingly isn't like other generals that don't have a heart and is mean and tough, he has a soft side, a caring listening side and a heart. He gives Joby good advice about how he shouldn't give up, on his job, on the war and in everything in general. The general doesnt act like a general he acts like a Dad towards Joby, he acts like a role model. I guess the general knows that he needs to keep a positive attitude towards Joby because he is the youngest in the army.I also guess he has to keep a positive attitude towards the whole war, he has to make it look like everything is okay for the rest of the soldiers. Joby then realizes that he is worth so much more and gains confident from all of the general advice.
While reading the book /short story I asked myself one question, what would have happened if Joby never took the general advice? I think that if Joby never took the general advice, Joby would have never realized how important it was to be the drummer boy of Shiloh.
He would have fighted for his life for no reason.He would have felt that maybe it didn't matter if he lived or if he didn't.Joby confidence wouldn't have never been as good as it was after he talked to the general.He would have never felt that he belonged their. Maybe he would have died not proud of himself, he would have died maybe even disgusted of who he was.
If I was Joby I would have been confused too and lonely. Being the youngest is always the hardest for anyone.Not knowing if your doing what your supposed to right. Is also hard for anyone who has a low self a-seen is also hard. I would have need someone to tell me I can do it for me to feel better.
In conclusion "The Drummer Boy of Shiloh" is a book/story that I would recommend to anyone who has a low self A-steen. Anybody who isn't really happy or proud of who they are. This book made me look at myself and really truly find myself .
Wednesday, September 26, 2012
Reading Post# 3
Silvia Soriano Reading Response September 24 2012
Unbelievable A Pretty Little Liars Novel By Sara Shepard
The Book Unbelievable by Sara Shepard is a book about secrets and what secrets can do to you. The book is also about trust, who you can and cant trust, who is worthy and who isn't worthy of your trust, trusting the wrong people could be the biggest mistake of your life, trusting the right people isn't always the best thing to do. The main Characters in Unbelievable are Aria, Emily, Spencer and Hanna. Best friends since 7 grade part of the it Club with another girl named Alli. These girls were best friends,they did everything together they told everything to each other, all their secrets.Alli was Queen bee of this little club. Alli was the girl Aria Spencer Emily and Hanna looked up to.Alli was the one that always made Spencer Aria Emily and Hanna do what she wanted, and when they didn't she used their secrets against them and each other. Spencer and Alli Always had trouble getting along, they always disagreed always fought.Alli always told Aria and Spencer and Emily that Spencer was just jealous of her. Alli starting getting distant from the girls. One night while the girls were having a sleep over at Spencer Barn, they woke up to find Alli and Spencer gone,then Spencer returned saying Alli gone. After that night Alli was said to be missing.A year has past by and Alli is still missing the girls have changed they all gone their separate ways.Soon they start receiving messages from a person called A. In these messages are secrets that only Alli would know. Few weeks after receiving messages they find Alli`s Body,they all think that A was Alli and know that Alli was found dead the messages would stop right? Well no they don't. They keep getting messages.All four of them have no choice than to reunite and figure out who A is.The entire book is about them learning to trust each other again and finding out who A is, but was reuniting and trusting each other better or for worse. Will they push each other over the edge? Will They Find A?
While I was reading Unbelievable, I asked myself a question, did they want to find A because it knew their secrets?Or did they want to find A because they thought A was Alli killer, were they doing this for themselves or for Alli? One thing that always came to my mind was that they never spoke about finding A to get revenge for it Killing Alli. Were they even sure A had killed Alli. A had send them all different clues about who it was. It was leading them away from the truth by using their secrets against each other..like Alli did. Each time A had threaten them about exposing their secrets, they all did separately what A had told them to do to stop A from exposing their secrets.Every time something they didn't want to be reveled they,always found a way to blame Alli. They blamed Alli for setting off the fire cracker in Jenna Garage and blinding her.Even though they never told Alli when she was alive they do now when shes dead. On the other hand they always did say they trusted Alli the most out of everyone thats why they told her everything.They also said its been more than a year and they were still tangle in Alli`s webs of lies. They didn't want to find Alli killer, cause Alli Killer probably just wants to tangle them in more lies make them suffer more.They just want to be free, free of A, free of Alli`s webs of lies, free of all their secrets.They don't 100% want to find A supposedly Alli`s killer for revenge they just want to be free of all the secrets that have been haunting them.On the other hand maybe they do want to find Alli`s killer. Alli no mater what she was, she was still their friend, best friend.Even if she was mean to them,Alli was always their for them when they needed her. She didn't deserve to be murdered or what ever else really happened to her.
Another question that I also asked myself while reading the book was did they really want to face reality and find A? The person who has been making their life's hard ever since they found Alli`s body.The person who has been hurting them both emotionality and physically . The person who ran over Hanna because she knew to much, who knew who A really was.The person who they think and maybe right or wrong that killed Alli, their Alli their best friend since seventh grade.If they did find A it could change everything, A could be someone who they never thought possible could have killed anyone.Even if they did find A wouldn't they risk that A might tell everyone(The Police, Their parents everyone in Rosewood ) about all their secrets.About Everything they did with Ali.On the other hand if they don't find A or they chose not to face reality , A could keep doing what she is doing to them. She could make things harder for Aria Spencer Emily and Hanna. A wouldn't be paying the consequences for her actions,for running over Hanna. Leaving her in the Hospital ,making her loose her memory.Killing Alli perhaps? Making Aria parents divorce. Making them do what they did even if they didn't want to cause it was against their will.
In my opinion If I was in the place that Aria,Spencer,Emily and Hanna were, I would have tried to take "A" down on my own. Killing Alli was one thing, maybe it hurt me alot cause I had been best friends with her for a long time. I had trusted her and had loved and cared for her.That was all in the past, that was my history and this is my present.If "A" would have black mailed me about my present, saying she would tell everyone my secrets, hurt someone I cared for if i didn't do what she had told me to do, I would take that personal.I would have told the police.Even if "A" did told me telling the police was just going to make her do more bad things to the people I care about, I know that the police would have the right equipment to track "A" down.I would have also told everything to the police, if I came clean "A" couldn't have used anything else against me cause everyone already knows the truth.I would have also taken all the consequences of what I did years ago with Alli.Coming clean is way better than living in until A wants me to.
In Conclusion Unbelievable is a book that kept me wondering till the end.A book that made me think every time I flipped a page. It made me think in Aria, Spencer, Emily and Hanna point of view every time they did what they did.Its a book that gives me chills just thinking about who killed Alli.This book showed me the true value of friendships and how strong and effective they could be to someone.How trusting the wrong person could make you suffer even if the person is gone, cause you cant change your past, you cant change what happened ,all you could do is live your present cause thats the only thing you could do.Believing you could your past is something you can do but in the end your left with reality.In the end what matter is what you think and what you do to make your past not repeat its self again.
Unbelievable A Pretty Little Liars Novel By Sara Shepard
The Book Unbelievable by Sara Shepard is a book about secrets and what secrets can do to you. The book is also about trust, who you can and cant trust, who is worthy and who isn't worthy of your trust, trusting the wrong people could be the biggest mistake of your life, trusting the right people isn't always the best thing to do. The main Characters in Unbelievable are Aria, Emily, Spencer and Hanna. Best friends since 7 grade part of the it Club with another girl named Alli. These girls were best friends,they did everything together they told everything to each other, all their secrets.Alli was Queen bee of this little club. Alli was the girl Aria Spencer Emily and Hanna looked up to.Alli was the one that always made Spencer Aria Emily and Hanna do what she wanted, and when they didn't she used their secrets against them and each other. Spencer and Alli Always had trouble getting along, they always disagreed always fought.Alli always told Aria and Spencer and Emily that Spencer was just jealous of her. Alli starting getting distant from the girls. One night while the girls were having a sleep over at Spencer Barn, they woke up to find Alli and Spencer gone,then Spencer returned saying Alli gone. After that night Alli was said to be missing.A year has past by and Alli is still missing the girls have changed they all gone their separate ways.Soon they start receiving messages from a person called A. In these messages are secrets that only Alli would know. Few weeks after receiving messages they find Alli`s Body,they all think that A was Alli and know that Alli was found dead the messages would stop right? Well no they don't. They keep getting messages.All four of them have no choice than to reunite and figure out who A is.The entire book is about them learning to trust each other again and finding out who A is, but was reuniting and trusting each other better or for worse. Will they push each other over the edge? Will They Find A?
While I was reading Unbelievable, I asked myself a question, did they want to find A because it knew their secrets?Or did they want to find A because they thought A was Alli killer, were they doing this for themselves or for Alli? One thing that always came to my mind was that they never spoke about finding A to get revenge for it Killing Alli. Were they even sure A had killed Alli. A had send them all different clues about who it was. It was leading them away from the truth by using their secrets against each other..like Alli did. Each time A had threaten them about exposing their secrets, they all did separately what A had told them to do to stop A from exposing their secrets.Every time something they didn't want to be reveled they,always found a way to blame Alli. They blamed Alli for setting off the fire cracker in Jenna Garage and blinding her.Even though they never told Alli when she was alive they do now when shes dead. On the other hand they always did say they trusted Alli the most out of everyone thats why they told her everything.They also said its been more than a year and they were still tangle in Alli`s webs of lies. They didn't want to find Alli killer, cause Alli Killer probably just wants to tangle them in more lies make them suffer more.They just want to be free, free of A, free of Alli`s webs of lies, free of all their secrets.They don't 100% want to find A supposedly Alli`s killer for revenge they just want to be free of all the secrets that have been haunting them.On the other hand maybe they do want to find Alli`s killer. Alli no mater what she was, she was still their friend, best friend.Even if she was mean to them,Alli was always their for them when they needed her. She didn't deserve to be murdered or what ever else really happened to her.
Another question that I also asked myself while reading the book was did they really want to face reality and find A? The person who has been making their life's hard ever since they found Alli`s body.The person who has been hurting them both emotionality and physically . The person who ran over Hanna because she knew to much, who knew who A really was.The person who they think and maybe right or wrong that killed Alli, their Alli their best friend since seventh grade.If they did find A it could change everything, A could be someone who they never thought possible could have killed anyone.Even if they did find A wouldn't they risk that A might tell everyone(The Police, Their parents everyone in Rosewood ) about all their secrets.About Everything they did with Ali.On the other hand if they don't find A or they chose not to face reality , A could keep doing what she is doing to them. She could make things harder for Aria Spencer Emily and Hanna. A wouldn't be paying the consequences for her actions,for running over Hanna. Leaving her in the Hospital ,making her loose her memory.Killing Alli perhaps? Making Aria parents divorce. Making them do what they did even if they didn't want to cause it was against their will.
In my opinion If I was in the place that Aria,Spencer,Emily and Hanna were, I would have tried to take "A" down on my own. Killing Alli was one thing, maybe it hurt me alot cause I had been best friends with her for a long time. I had trusted her and had loved and cared for her.That was all in the past, that was my history and this is my present.If "A" would have black mailed me about my present, saying she would tell everyone my secrets, hurt someone I cared for if i didn't do what she had told me to do, I would take that personal.I would have told the police.Even if "A" did told me telling the police was just going to make her do more bad things to the people I care about, I know that the police would have the right equipment to track "A" down.I would have also told everything to the police, if I came clean "A" couldn't have used anything else against me cause everyone already knows the truth.I would have also taken all the consequences of what I did years ago with Alli.Coming clean is way better than living in until A wants me to.
In Conclusion Unbelievable is a book that kept me wondering till the end.A book that made me think every time I flipped a page. It made me think in Aria, Spencer, Emily and Hanna point of view every time they did what they did.Its a book that gives me chills just thinking about who killed Alli.This book showed me the true value of friendships and how strong and effective they could be to someone.How trusting the wrong person could make you suffer even if the person is gone, cause you cant change your past, you cant change what happened ,all you could do is live your present cause thats the only thing you could do.Believing you could your past is something you can do but in the end your left with reality.In the end what matter is what you think and what you do to make your past not repeat its self again.
Wednesday, September 19, 2012
Reading Post # 2 My thoughts On other Students Reading Responds September 19 2012
While reading Paul Reading response I found it really intersecting , because Paul also read a book dealing with adoption and I so did I during Summer . I really liked his reading response/ Reading blog because mine and his books were very different even though they both talked about adoption. In Paul book the main character felt special and he didn't know he was adopted so he never asked or went through the weird phase of being an adopted kid. On the other hand in my book, she knew she was adopted , she was insecure cause of it . She felt like she dint fit in like she wasn't as important as everyone else. She hated the fact that she was adopted that maybe her birth parents didn't want her cause they weren't the daughter they expected her to be. She has doubts on her ,herself and everything around her.In Paul book thats not the case. He never knew that he was adopted, he didn't grew up with these doubts like the character in my book did. Thats why I like and find Paul book very interesting cause I can have a connection from my book to his even though the plots are not the same they still talk about a very important subject.
While reading Sophia reading blog post/ reading post I found it very interesting because I read that book before, well I read both of the books Sophia described in her reading response. I really liked her reading response because while I was reading the book I had another idea of the whole plot. I didn't have the same Idea Sophia did. I didn't like how the plot was described .On the other hand Sophia liked some of those plots. Also Sophia described what she thought the main reason pulling them together was...music. I on the other hand thought it was Love, maybe even true love , fate ,destiny . None of this answers are correct they maybe all could be correct because their our own opinion . Their is no wrong or right answer. Thats why I like Sophia Blog because it gave me a chance to really think about my opinion about the book. About what I thought before and What I think know.
While reading Paul Reading response I found it really intersecting , because Paul also read a book dealing with adoption and I so did I during Summer . I really liked his reading response/ Reading blog because mine and his books were very different even though they both talked about adoption. In Paul book the main character felt special and he didn't know he was adopted so he never asked or went through the weird phase of being an adopted kid. On the other hand in my book, she knew she was adopted , she was insecure cause of it . She felt like she dint fit in like she wasn't as important as everyone else. She hated the fact that she was adopted that maybe her birth parents didn't want her cause they weren't the daughter they expected her to be. She has doubts on her ,herself and everything around her.In Paul book thats not the case. He never knew that he was adopted, he didn't grew up with these doubts like the character in my book did. Thats why I like and find Paul book very interesting cause I can have a connection from my book to his even though the plots are not the same they still talk about a very important subject.
While reading Sophia reading blog post/ reading post I found it very interesting because I read that book before, well I read both of the books Sophia described in her reading response. I really liked her reading response because while I was reading the book I had another idea of the whole plot. I didn't have the same Idea Sophia did. I didn't like how the plot was described .On the other hand Sophia liked some of those plots. Also Sophia described what she thought the main reason pulling them together was...music. I on the other hand thought it was Love, maybe even true love , fate ,destiny . None of this answers are correct they maybe all could be correct because their our own opinion . Their is no wrong or right answer. Thats why I like Sophia Blog because it gave me a chance to really think about my opinion about the book. About what I thought before and What I think know.
Tuesday, September 11, 2012
Reading Responce #1 (NEW UPDATED)
Silvia Soriano Reading Response: September 8 2012
Finding Miracles by Julia Alvarez
In "Finding Miracles" by Julia Alvarez its a book about dealing with adoption, fears and learning to find out who you really are. The main character Milly (Milly Spanish name is Milagros, which in her native country means miracles) is a girl adopted into the Kaufman family. Milly hasn't told anyone besides her best friend Em that she is adopted, and well besides her parents and her sister who was adopted in her native country, who is the same age as her.Milly doesn't want anybody to know from where she really is, cause shes ashamed that she is from their and not from Vermont . Milly nationality is brought to notice when a boy named Pablo moves to Vermont and discovers that Milly looks exactly like all the people back at his Native country.Milly has no choice than to revel to everybody who she really is, where she originally comes from and everything else she has been keeping from everyone .The entire book is about Milly figuring out her past piece by piece ,and traveling back to her native country to learn more about who she really is, what happened to her birth parents, why did they give her up, how did she end up with her family, but was all of this to fast for Milly to figure out? Was Milly satisfied with what she found out about her past or not?
While i was reading " Finding Miracles" one questioned always showed up, did Milly really know what was going to happened to her after she found out the truth about who she really was? After finding out truth to her and her family? One thought that came to my mind was maybe she thought if she found out all she wanted to know she would either be so happy and be grateful about everything that has happened to her. She could react like her being put up for adoption was for her own good. She could realize that maybe her parents weren't capable of taking care of her at that time. On the other hand Milly would have not understand why her biological parents did what they did. She could have thought that coming to her native country was something she regrets . Her learning more about who she truly is is something that she hates . Something that she would have never wanted to know. Milly could of also realized that she has the perfect family even if their not her biological parents, their still her parents that love her.
Another questioned that i always asked my self when reading this book was did Milly parents really want her to go back to her native country?Did her parents not like that Milly talked about her not being a part of the family? And did Milly parents not care if she was adopted , did they treat her as if she was their real kid? Her Parents never really liked talking about her being adopted. Was that maybe a sign that they didn't like that subject.When Milly Dad mom came to visit them talking about her will, she only included her sister Katie and her brother Nate , her parents were angry and upset that Happy ( Milly dad mom ) didn't include Milly in her will because she wasn't their birth child , so they ( Milly parents ) told Happy that no kids of theirs were going to part of anything with unincluding any child of theirs. Milly Dad told his mom that he didn't want to be part of that because it didn't include Milly .When Milly decided to go back to her native country by herself her dad always made up excuses. Either that their wasn't enough money , that she was too young. He even brought up that maybe it wasn't safe to travel alone to another country. Even if it was her native country. In the end her Dad had no choice other than letting her go.
I think if i was a parent of an adopted child, I wouldn't want them to go back to their native country by them self's to figure out their past. I would tell them that I'm their parent, i cared for them, i watched them grow up. I will never ever be able to replace their biological parents, but I am their other parent. But if they truly would wanted to go, I would like to go with them, I would like to be with them every step of the way, knowing that it may hurt me emotional that they want to find their other parents , but ill try to be as supporting as I can. Many kids go throw these same problems everyday. Some are worst some are not. Some find out on their own that their adopted, some parents tell them when their at the right age to know, and to make their own decisions. Knowing they wont make any mistakes in what they choice to do and wont regret it after .
In conclusion "Finding Miracles" its a book that kept me thinking and wondering till the end. Its a book that i have learned to love and really respect. It has made me more aware that adopted children arent always aware that their adopted.They make the choices they do cause of what they been through That they make their choices because they want to figure out who they really are. If they do thats great if they don't thats also great.What matters is just being happy with what ever choice you made at the end, cause in the end its what you think and what you feel that really matters.
Finding Miracles by Julia Alvarez
In "Finding Miracles" by Julia Alvarez its a book about dealing with adoption, fears and learning to find out who you really are. The main character Milly (Milly Spanish name is Milagros, which in her native country means miracles) is a girl adopted into the Kaufman family. Milly hasn't told anyone besides her best friend Em that she is adopted, and well besides her parents and her sister who was adopted in her native country, who is the same age as her.Milly doesn't want anybody to know from where she really is, cause shes ashamed that she is from their and not from Vermont . Milly nationality is brought to notice when a boy named Pablo moves to Vermont and discovers that Milly looks exactly like all the people back at his Native country.Milly has no choice than to revel to everybody who she really is, where she originally comes from and everything else she has been keeping from everyone .The entire book is about Milly figuring out her past piece by piece ,and traveling back to her native country to learn more about who she really is, what happened to her birth parents, why did they give her up, how did she end up with her family, but was all of this to fast for Milly to figure out? Was Milly satisfied with what she found out about her past or not?
While i was reading " Finding Miracles" one questioned always showed up, did Milly really know what was going to happened to her after she found out the truth about who she really was? After finding out truth to her and her family? One thought that came to my mind was maybe she thought if she found out all she wanted to know she would either be so happy and be grateful about everything that has happened to her. She could react like her being put up for adoption was for her own good. She could realize that maybe her parents weren't capable of taking care of her at that time. On the other hand Milly would have not understand why her biological parents did what they did. She could have thought that coming to her native country was something she regrets . Her learning more about who she truly is is something that she hates . Something that she would have never wanted to know. Milly could of also realized that she has the perfect family even if their not her biological parents, their still her parents that love her.
Another questioned that i always asked my self when reading this book was did Milly parents really want her to go back to her native country?Did her parents not like that Milly talked about her not being a part of the family? And did Milly parents not care if she was adopted , did they treat her as if she was their real kid? Her Parents never really liked talking about her being adopted. Was that maybe a sign that they didn't like that subject.When Milly Dad mom came to visit them talking about her will, she only included her sister Katie and her brother Nate , her parents were angry and upset that Happy ( Milly dad mom ) didn't include Milly in her will because she wasn't their birth child , so they ( Milly parents ) told Happy that no kids of theirs were going to part of anything with unincluding any child of theirs. Milly Dad told his mom that he didn't want to be part of that because it didn't include Milly .When Milly decided to go back to her native country by herself her dad always made up excuses. Either that their wasn't enough money , that she was too young. He even brought up that maybe it wasn't safe to travel alone to another country. Even if it was her native country. In the end her Dad had no choice other than letting her go.
I think if i was a parent of an adopted child, I wouldn't want them to go back to their native country by them self's to figure out their past. I would tell them that I'm their parent, i cared for them, i watched them grow up. I will never ever be able to replace their biological parents, but I am their other parent. But if they truly would wanted to go, I would like to go with them, I would like to be with them every step of the way, knowing that it may hurt me emotional that they want to find their other parents , but ill try to be as supporting as I can. Many kids go throw these same problems everyday. Some are worst some are not. Some find out on their own that their adopted, some parents tell them when their at the right age to know, and to make their own decisions. Knowing they wont make any mistakes in what they choice to do and wont regret it after .
In conclusion "Finding Miracles" its a book that kept me thinking and wondering till the end. Its a book that i have learned to love and really respect. It has made me more aware that adopted children arent always aware that their adopted.They make the choices they do cause of what they been through That they make their choices because they want to figure out who they really are. If they do thats great if they don't thats also great.What matters is just being happy with what ever choice you made at the end, cause in the end its what you think and what you feel that really matters.
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